What to Wear: When You Don't Feel Like Getting Dressed
Wednesday, January 30, 2013
For what feels like the 90th day in a row, I woke up to this:
Fun story time! So on Monday, we woke up to another foot of snow. My husband went out and brushed off my car before taking my daughter to school and himself to work, but he didn't have time to plow the driveway before he left. When it was time for me to head to my workout, I laced up and was about to head to the car when I heard the telltale sound of a snowblower.
It was my 60+ neighbor, sweetly plowing our driveway. We have a snowblower, so it's not necessary, but he does it anyway. I stood at the door and wondered if I should go out or if I should just hide in my house. Make fun of me if you will, but it's awkward to be like "Welp, thanks for plowing my driveway, I"ll just leave you to it then!" and then LEAVE. But I had no choice! I needed to get to my workout!
So I went out. I headed over to him and reminded him that it totally wasn't necessary for him to plow our driveway and thanked him for it. Then he wanted to hurry and plow behind my car so I could get out. Now, I drive a big 'ol beast of a 4WD SUV and I could have just driven over it, but he insisted. While he plowed, I scraped the minimal amount of ice off of my windshield and windows and then figured I'd just heat up the car and wait for the rest to melt off. I was literally driving two blocks down the road. I hopped back in the car and when my neighbor was done, he came and knocked on my car window.
"Do you have a scraper?" He yelled.
"I do, but it's really fine. I've got the defroster on."
"Just give me the scraper and I'll do your car!"
"No... it's really fine. I'm just driving two blocks down the road."
"JUST GIVE ME THE SCRAPER."
Sheepishly, I handed it over and then proceeded to sit there like a total shmuck while he scraped every square inch of ice off of my car for the next 10 minutes. I was super grateful... but I also felt like a huge idiot. When he was done he handed the scraper back through my window and then finished up my driveway.
Sufficiently mortified, I went to workout and then headed down to the store right after. I picked up a loaf of artisan bread to drop off to his house, but I hadn't had a chance to when we got another six inches. This time, my husband went to their house and plowed their driveway, but now I think they've gone away for the week. And it's snowing again. So NOW I feel like my husband needs to plow their driveway every day until they get back so they can see that we returned the favor.
THIS IS MY LIFE PEOPLE.
Then, last night, my husband was out plowing and shoveling and decided that just then would be the perfect time to start knocking the six-inch thick ice chunks frozen to our house. I was upstairs with the kids when I heard a huge crash. I ran down the stairs, fully expecting to see him dead under a pile of ice, but he was just standing there with a 6-foot length of gutter and an Adirondack chair, both of which he had broken with his icecapades.
Guess what? I'm ready for sun.
There's probably a solid three feet of snow on my lawn and those white spots? That's not my dirty window -- that's more snow. But you know what? I don't care because I don't have a single place to go today and that is glorious. I actually purposely plan all of my week's stuff on one or two days. Tuesdays and Thursdays are always my busiest days, but that means I can relax a bit on the other days. And, since the roads are a mess, I'm absolutely taking advantage of that fact. I plan on hiding in my house, getting some work done and reading while my son naps.
What I'm saying in the most roundabout, least fashion bloggy way is that I'm not getting dressed today.
And guess what? Anyone who posts pictures of their outfits is probably showing off what they wear about an eighth of the time. Because mark my words, the rest of the time, they're in their sweats, hiding from their well-meaning neighbors like EVERYONE ELSE.
SO I'm not lying when I tell you that while I have a very extensive closet of cute clothes, I also have a HUGE collection of lounge clothes too. And I'm wearing some right now. And that's OK. Although I will say that even if I'm hanging out in the house all day, I'll wear something more than PJs to get through it. Because even if no one else is going to see me, if I stay in PJs all day, I'll undoubtedly start feeling gross and unproductive and unshowered all day. Simply changing into cute, well-fitting lounge stuff means I'm still totally comfortable, but I don't end up wallowing in self pity, Downton Abbey and poor food choices all day.
Here are some super cute options for getting dressed when there's no point in actually getting dressed.
Volcom pocket tee / Victoria's Secret vintage top / Knit shirt / Black tank top, $24 / Activewear pants / American Eagle Outfitters stripe pants / Accessorize button shoes / Pastry snakeskin shoes, $47 / Minnetonka bow shoes / Gap Logo Lounge Pants / Aero 87 Lace Full-Zip Yoga Hoodie
And now, what not to wear.
Men's sweatpants, actual pajamas, that gross souvenir T-shirt that you wear when dyeing your hair and ONESIES. Do I really need to even say this? If you slept in it the night before, change out of it. UNLESS you're sick or just had a baby because those times don't count.
For the record, I'm hanging out in Calvin Klein yoga leggings and a Roots Canada half-zip sweater today. And that's pretty much how I'll stay all day.
And I'm thinking about eating the loaf of bread I bought my neighbor.
Also, I'm a horrible, awkward shell of a human being.
Alright, sock it to me. Are you a "get dolled up every day" type? Or are you more of a "Put on pants when I have to go to Wal-Mart" kinda gal?




15 comments:
yeah, your "not getting dressed" clothes look nicer than my "going to walmart" clothes.
On a side note- I think it's awesome that your neighbor was being chivalrous and doing that for you. This may be because I'm from the south, but I think it's perfectly acceptable that you just sat there. He was being a gentleman! Awkward, maybe... but oh well!
Sara, I thought it was sweet... I just have a really, really hard time accepting help. But Utahns are SO helpy! I've lived here for 10 years and it always surprises me a little when I go out after a snowstorm and it's like a neighborhood block party with everyone helping everyone else. One day I'll get used to it!!
Just Pay it Forward and be done.
I would probably make you keel right over and die if you saw my every-day "clothes". I wear footie pajamas pretty much every day. True story. I have three pair (Hubby bought me all three because he loves me). One has sock monkeys on the feet, one has leopards, and the third has foxes. See? I can be totally foxy. (<-- you're permitted to groan at that to give you a break from heaving your guts up). I have never yet worn them out of the house, though, and I'm pretty sure the boy scouts love taking turns to come by and knock on the door for various reasons and try not to laugh at what I'm wearing. I tell them they can just laugh and get it over with. I own it :P
I have also had a migraine AND various ear / sinus /throat infections nonstop since Christmas. And I have fibromyalgia. Anything that keeps me warm and covered without pointing out the weight gain from all the gazillion attempts at treatments to manage my pain and doesn't rub on my skin which feels boiled some days is a WIN in my head.
Someday I totally intend to be healthy and in reasonable shape again (bahahahahahaha!!!!!) and if..er..."when" that happens I'm totally going to beg you to go shopping with me and help me find clothes I love. I've been sorting old photos all week and dang, I used to have style! (And a 23" waist. *sigh*)
Thanks for this post. I'm also hating the snow, can't wait for Spring! I love that you said Utahns are "So helpy". I've lived here my whole life and I'm still awkward about accepting the help. That doesn't stop me from really enjoying when our 12 year old neighbor comes over to shovel. I figure it's good for him to do some service. :)
I'm a get dressed or strive for cute lounge wear kind of gal. Love your suggestions. Once I was over at my sister-in-laws house. She was in early pregnancy and fairly sick, so I commented that I'd be in my pajamas all day too. She looked at me horrified and said, "oh, these aren't my pajamas!" Ummm, if those weren't her pajamas, I'd hate to see what her pajamas look like. ;)
I refuse to leave the house without a shower, so I always look pretty normal. However there have been times where I need something late at night and I run out in my PJ's. I know, it's bad...
Best advice I ever got when my first child was born: get up, take a shower, and get dressed every single day. After all, my husband didn't suddenly decide to stay at home and quit seeing people dressed for the public. It has made a difference in how I am perceived by others and the standard to which I hold myself.
In my brain I am dressed in cute clothes all the time but in real life I wear jeans and t-shirts every day. When my kids are bigger and I have a job outside the house again maybe this will change. My current wardrobe goals are to make sure my jeans and t-shirts are nice and to wear a skirt at least a couple times a month for practice :)
I'm a get up, shower, dress, hair, makeup every single day kind of girl. Clothes, makeup and hair are more casual on the weekends or if I'm painting or something, but I always start the day ready for anything.
Your story was thigh-slappingly hilarious!!! Could not stop laughing. I love overly helpful neighbors and the awkward moments that follow!
I "doll" up to some degree, but usually halfway through the day! I drop my son off at school fully dressed, but my hair is in a ponytail and I don't usually have makeup on.
Maybe as the sun comes up earlier this will change....
Janelle, I'm sure nobody will judge you for being comfortable when you have a medical condition.
Sometimes I wonder if the girls at preschool think I have an evil, shlubby twin. I drop my son off in workout clothes and zero makeup and then when I pick him up, I'm magically transformed! Yes... it's the magic of a shower!
You know what struck me funny about this story? Instead of waiting awkwardly for your neighbor to plow the drive and then driving all of two blocks to the gym, you could have shoveled the driveway yourself and got your workout in at the same time. :D
I always enjoy reading your posts, you make me laugh!
For real. But I didn't want to get cooooooooold. And I did want to gossip with my workout buddies. It's a tradeoff. lol.
oh the feelings
why are super nice people uncomfortable.
something is wrong with this world.
I have a friend who ALWAYS offers to shovel my drive way and it makes me so angry.
I don't need your help okay, im a strong independent woman and I dont want to have to owe you a single thing.
I'm awful.
ya preach the truth
and I appreciate.
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